During the summer, people often get together with their extended families, offering a great opportunity for fun, recreation — and gathering elder wisdom! Older people are a unique source of advice for living for younger people. We often do ask our elders to tell their life stories. But that activity is very different from asking their advice.
Your children are the best ones to start this conversation and they can ask questions that are highly relevant to them. Is Sammy concerned about bullying? Some elders especially immigrants were ferociously bullied as children. Is Pat concerned about finding the right partner? You have elders who have long experience in relationships, but who are rarely asked for their advice about them.
Are your college kids worried about the job market? If so, how about advice from people who went through the Great Depression? Give it a try on vacation and let me know how it went! Here are some questions to get you started; it can help to send these in advance to your elders so they can ponder them a bit.
More information is available in the book 30 Lessons for Living. We take time today to share new elder wisdom from a wonderful source: Our readers! I was taught this when I was in my 20s.
At almost 61, I use this every day and would like to pass it along. She answers the phone with the most cheerful voice of anyone else I talk to during the day.
What that does for me is make me feel positive about my day. Answering the phone with a cheerful voice can be a lesson for all of us in a world that revolves around the negative, this is my becon of light.
I am almost 52 and am blessed with 5 generations living. My grandmother is 93 and this morning I am holding my breath waiting to see if she made it through the night in the hospital. Growing up in a military family we moved around the world and she was my only constant and best friend no matter how many miles between us. She encouraged the adventure when I was uncertain about a new place.
She encouraged my dreams no matter how small or childish. It was always her face I saw in my heart when I was afraid. Even in their worst of fights, Grandpa put his arm out for her to come to him when they went to bed at night.
I lost my Grandpa 32 years ago and am still sad from the loss. I know that the days to come will be the most difficult of my life…. Have a clear line of communication with your spouse to avoid this and have a plan on how to deal with it.
Teach your children to be independent and creative thinkers. Teach them not to follow the crowd and be blindly led, even by you as parents! Thanks to all of you for contributing elder wisdom to the Legacy Project — and keep those entries coming! How then can you complain of bad luck when you have won the greatest lottery of them all?
People have to learn to be thankful. To see the wonders of this world — you know, we are here for such a short time. My advice about growing old? The world is a magical place in lots of ways. To enjoy getting up in the morning and watching the sun come up. You can be grateful, happy for the things that have happened. You should enjoy your life. Grow a little. I used to think that when you got old you sat back in a rocking chair and let the world go by. And your attitude, be optimistic.
Even as a little girl I can remember that no matter what happened it would turn out all right. In this country almost everybody is taking antidepressants.
Why in the world are people taking antidepressants? It should be a wonderful world. Mine has been a great ride, believe me. Looking for the best advice about aging? We asked over older Americans to offer their lessons on how to be happier, healthier, and more fulfilled. Some of the most interesting insights in the book from the project, 30 Lessons for Living , were about aging itself.
But I found that the Legacy Project elders defied these stereotypes. Over and over, I got the message that being old and sometimes really old was much better than people ever expected. Worry about aging? I wake up and I know where I am, I lead a very normal life. I eat, I drink, I like to talk, as you can see!
Flexibility, that is important. I get very upset when people complain. I tell you, you have to think positively. And if you think positive, physically and mentally, things are all right.
I think positive and that is my blessing. I have my mind and my wonderful memories. I have been lucky to be healthy. I have everyday a glass of wine. Davia,74, discovered her knack for business later in life and runs a successful bed-and-breakfast.
Well, when it comes to aging, it sure as heck not the way I would have thought old age or growing older would be like! I never thought it would be anything like this. Walls Key Verse: The fruit of righteousness is a tree of life , and he who wins souls is wise Proverbs After completing this lesson , From lessons on creating a happy This teaching represents both the culmination and the convergence of all the other lessons.
The books took different approaches in integrating gerontology and geriatrics with takeaway lessons for their readers. He solicited information from them using both surveys and interviews for his book, 30 Lessons for Living. Quarterly Journal of Life Planning Network 4, no.
Ostaseski, Frank. New York: Flatiron Books, New York: Palgrave MacMillian, Buettner, Dan. You might be surprised how habit forming that can be. Creating art even doodling or coloring is a great stress. For instance, Pillemer's book, 30 Lessons for Living , details 30 such gems e.
Pillemer, Karl. New York: Hudson Street Press, What is of the utmost importance is to take care 30 Life Lesson 2. Bill Thomas. For over thirty years , I have studied family problems , such as conflict , domestic violence , and parental favoritism.
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